BAN Radio’s host Ella D. Curry will be interviewing us during the holiday radio show. We will be sharing messages of Hope, Healing, and Resilience and discussing ways to successfully manage ADHD behaviors, listen here. Our interview starts 40 minutes into the show. Check out our Black Pearls Magazine holiday interview below.
Audrey R. Jones & Larry A. Jones, MD are fun-loving mates, parents and grandparents who enjoy traveling and each other’s company. After a whirlwind spring romance as college students in 1970, they married and had three sons, one right after the other. During their adolescence each was diagnosed with ADHD in the early 1990s. For at least 20 years of his career as a pediatrician and parent, Dr. Larry did not link his children’s symptoms and signs of ADHD to himself.
During Audrey’s recovery from a debilitating illness, they reflected on their sons’ actions, starts and misfires. They chose to tell their story, intending to help other families acknowledge and address behaviors that can adversely affect couples and families.
BPM: It is such a pleasure to have you join us to discuss FALLING THROUGH THE CEILING: Our ADHD Family Memoir. Describe yourself in three words.
Larry & Audrey: Larry – Resilient, Experienced, Mentor. Audrey – Resourceful, Optimistic, Frugal.
BPM: What drove you to publish your first book or create your first series?
Larry & Audrey: FALLING THROUGH THE CEILING evolved from our passion to relate our experience of Hope and Healing even if it would be a painful story to tell.
We chose to write FTTC for several reasons. As an ADHD affected family, we could not find books about ADHD to help us to understand what can go wrong in families. We knew other parents who were also in denial about professional assessments of ADHD. Yet, we had learned, with difficulty, how to work with multiple generations of children that are affected with ADHD, and wanted to offer hope and concrete do’s and don’ts to families rather than they “just suffer through” clinical directions.
From our experiences, we knew that we needed to highlight the dangers of being enablers to other parents, to help them recognize and unlock the childhood and adult gifts of ADHD.
We shared our stories not only to help other families, but to also help our sons use their ADHD gifts to create their own paths from Frustration to Resilience.
BPM: Describe what you do outside of writing to expand your business or brand.
Larry & Audrey: We initially attended conferences and meetings to get feedback about the interest in our subject. From our research, we learned that most interest is among affected families, educators, and counselors. Each group was searching for tools that could be easily implemented by parents. Even though Larry is a pediatrician by training, we focus on “parent level” and affected adult experience and advice.
We offer our advice/services through several means:
· – Our website, which includes blog posts about parenting.
· – Dialogues/book signings focusing on specific issues such as Adult Impulsivity.
· – Launching Stop Failing and Falling Coaching providing online services to connect affected people and their families with medical, educational, and support resources accessible to them locally. Larry is completing his certification as an ADHD Life Coach focusing on family healing and resilience.
BPM: What was one of the most surprising things you learned in creating your body of work/books?
The most exciting thing about creating our book together was realizing how in sync we were about our shared 40+ years experiences as parents; we have been bewildered and amazed at the same times.
BPM: How did you choose the genre you write in? Have you considered writing in another genre?
Larry & Audrey: We had only planned to write a memoir about ADHD.
BPM: Tell us about your most recent work. Available on Nook and Kindle?
Larry & Audrey: We see having ADHD is somewhat like a kaleidoscope. The amazing gifts and personality traits are all inside but mixed up, and unused until they are recognized and brought into sharp focus. How to move from frustration to resilient living by focusing or stabilizing the gifts of ADHD is our story. It is available in paperback and electronic book formats from both our website: WWW.ENABLE.TABLES.COM and AMAZON.COM.
BPM: What was one of the most surprising things you learned in creating your book?
The most surprising thing was that when we gathered all of our stories together, they came together in a way that could help other people by providing them information in an entertaining way.
Larry and Audrey were confused, overwhelmed, busy and loving parents without a clue; over time they learned to live with ADHD and support one another to do what they thought was best for their children and grandchildren.
Drew, the oldest, would say he’s always been in charge, and does the best he can for his loved ones, starting with his brothers, and now his own children.
Jay would describe himself as independent and confident; able to take care of himself and figure things out in any situation. Rob is extremely considerate of others, their wants and their needs; but his wants and needs come first.
BPM: What’s so unique about their story-line or voice in the story? What makes each one so special?
The stories and voices are real and true, but entertaining, and explain the gifts of ADHD. That’s what’s so unique about each of them.
BPM: Share one specific point in your book that resonated with your present situation or journey.
Our son once told us that his failures were due to our enabling him. We thought that we were just being supportive. But we realized that we were not helping him solve his problems, and instead enabling him to continue making the same bad decisions. After 40 years of practicing parenting, we still see the continued importance of promoting shared problem solving, not enabling, as our children continue to mature.
BPM: Are there certain groups you would like to go back to or is there a theme or idea you’d love to work with?
We want to work the idea of enabling, turning it into a card game. Through this game, we will explore the concept of being enablers in a more forgiving arena —the game— to help parents recognize symptoms of enabling versus supporting their children.
BPM: Is there one subject you would never write about as an author? What is it?
Audrey: I would never write about the most negative consequences of ADHD, such as murder, suicide; death. Nor would I share the intimate details of our personal lives. We tell the stories of our family in a light way, and try to keep them interesting and humorous, but we would never get too deep.
BPM: Do you ever have days when writing is a struggle? Have you ever had to deal with rejection?
We struggled to tell the story of our family without compromising the characters’ current personal lives. We have definitely had to deal with rejection, because a lot of people did not understand the topic or why we wanted to share what they felt to be intimate stories.
BPM: What projects are you working on at the present?
Dr. Jones, after 24 years as a practicing pediatrician, successfully living with ADHD, will be completing his training as an ADHD Life Coach. With this certification, Audrey and Larry will package their expertise as: Stop Failing and Falling Coaching. Online, Larry will provide services to connect affected people and their families with medical, educational, and support resources accessible to them locally. He will continue to be available for local, individual coaching.
We are also collaborating with researchers from Howard University on a study about the stress factor of mothers caring for children with ADHD.
BPM: How do you stay connected with others in publishing and your readers?
Primarily through our website and social media pages. Readers interact with our blog posts on our website, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, and we receive their responses and feedback. We also stay connected through newsletters we send to our mailing list. Larry and I have attended several meetings and conferences, and met with affinity groups for other families living with ADHD. Through these in-person encounters we have connected with many new readers.
BPM: What legacy do you hope to leave future generations of readers and new writers with your writing?
We hope that our readers realize how valuable it is to connect and tell personal stories to help others.
BPM: What is your preferred method to have readers get in touch with or follow you?
Any way readers can share what they think and ask questions is preferred. We hope they continue to interact with us in-person at book signings and discussions, as well as on our blog and social media pages by commenting on and sharing our online posts with friends and family who they think might benefit from reading our story.
Our ultimate goal is to broaden the discussion on living with ADHD. Larry and I aren’t experts on everything, so we would like our readers to also provide their own input on the overarching topic, to answer questions others might have and keep the conversation flowing.
BPM: How can readers discover more about you and your work?
Our website: www.enabletables.com
Our Twitter: www.twitter.com/fallingttc
Our Facebook page: www.facebook.com/Fallingthroughtheceiling
Our Instagram: www.instagram.com/fallingthroughtheceiling